Vittoria Giulia Frandsen, born August 23, 2001 at 5:46 pm, passed peacefully into our Heavenly Father's arms on her Grandma Bonnie's birthday, August 16, 2009 at 5:46pm.
Today started out well as everything was stable but the bleeding continued. Some clot had to be removed from the drain tube. At a certain point this morning, she started having issues with her lungs. After an x-ray, it was found that she had more liquid on the "good" lung. We took her to get a CT scan and it was revealed that she had blood inside her lung. It was also discovered that she had an infection around her heart. It was around 2:30pm that we found out. By 4pm, she was fading fast. The pressure in her chest inhibited breathing and the heart pumps were struggling to pump the blood. We had reached the point of no return.
We called the family to gather, but Vittoria faded so quickly. It was time to make that decision that I never, ever wanted to be forced into. We had to decide to stop support to let the suffering end. It was the hardest thing we could ever be asked to do, but every second had become a painful struggle. Words cannot describe the feelings of sorrow, guilt, pain.... utter agony we felt.
We take solace in the fact that we were there and able to tell her how much we loved her. That we knew she loved us and that we were honored and privileged to be the parents of such a remarkable perfect angel. We told her how proud she always made us. We made the best of the final moments God gave us.
We are comforted in our beliefs. Our religion has been our foundation. We know that the family unit is eternal, that we will be with her again. We know that God lives and is there with open arms as we have felt his arms around us so many times throughout the past few weeks. We have seen the miracles and witnessed the power of God as Vittoria was victorious in her valiant battle to live. Tonight, we witnessed the miracle of her passing, knowing that her tired little body was left behind, yet her spirit, unbound, is free and is now unimpeded by the physical struggle she has known for nearly 8 years. We believe that she was a valiant spirit that is as perfect as they come, with no requirement to be tried and tested in this mortal life. She is with God now, in Celestial glory. That is where our angel, our little princess is now.
It has been and still is an honor, a privilege, a remarkable opportunity to say that we are and to actually be her parents. WE LOVE HER! We love all of you who have prayed for us and for her. We Thank you for all of your love and support. Please keep us in your prayers in the days and weeks to come as we adjust to not having our little princess here with us. May God bless us and you. Goodnight
(We will post the funeral details in the next day or two)
Il mese di agosto ci ha regalato la nostra piccola principessa e lo stesso mese l' ha portato via. Ora sappiamo che c'è un meraviglioso angelo finalmente senza sofferenze che veglia su tutti quelli che l'hanno amata.
ReplyDeleteSta a noi scoprire il significato di tanto dolore. Per quanto riguarda noi e tutti gli amici che si sono interessati a questa straordinaria vicenda vi assicuriamo tante preghiere perchè il dolore immenso e il vuoto vengano colmati dalla consolazione di aver fatto tutto il possibile e l'imposssibile per lei. Avete dato un esempio di fede incrollabile da imitare. Vi stringiamo con tanto affetto e dolore zia Tina e zio Alberto
Grazie VITTORIA per l'Amore donato con cuore puro in questi otto anni
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In verità vi dico: se non vi convertirete e non diventerete come i bambini, non entrerete nel regno dei cieli. Perciò chiunque diventerà piccolo come questo bambino, sarà il più grande nel regno dei cieli.
A JAMES e VALE grazie per la vostra perseverante testimonianza di Fede
Rm 15,4 Ora, tutto ciò che è stato scritto prima di noi, è stato scritto per nostra istruzione, perché in virtù della perseveranza e della consolazione che ci vengono dalle Scritture teniamo viva la nostra speranza.
Gianluca e Paola
Oh no! I don't know what to say...I cannot imagine how you guys must feel. I am so very deeply saddened to hear that Vittoria has passed. I really felt another miracle was coming for her. Our hearts go out to your family at this time. I so wished this would have turned out differently. Vittoria truely put up the good fight. I wish I had some words of comfort for you guys. Your faith in the Lord truely humbles me at this time. How can anyone get through such difficult times without the knowledge of the gospel to comfort them? At least Vittoria is finally in a place that matches her beautiful little spirit! I know you will see her again.
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Lora, Rod and girls
Mamma e papà e Gianluca e Paola hanno già detto ciò che pensavamo anche noi. inutile ripeterci. Siete un grande esempio vi vogliamo bene un bene infinito e Vittoria sarà sempre vicino a noi. Con tanto affetto e tanto dipiacere per non essere lì un grande bacio Francy e Ema
ReplyDeleteYou guys are amazing. What a bitter sweet time to be with someone who is passing. I am sure your heart aches to not have her with you, but to know that all the struggles that she was having here are gone is just a blessing. We love you and will continue to pray for peace and comfort as you move on without your princess.
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Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful daughter with us. She was such a sweet heart. Everytime Gage or I came into the classroom, she had a contagious smile to share. Gage will truly miss seeing her, she was such a nice friend. Our thoughts are with you at this time, and we pray you will find the peace and comfort you need.
ReplyDeleteTo: Vittoria "Adios, Adios, we'll soon be seeing you:)"
Gage and Amy Mathews
Words can not express our sympathy and sorrow to hear of this news. We are truly grateful to be able to share the knowledge that families are forever and that of the healing given by our Elder Brother, Jesus Christ. Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you. We love you.
ReplyDeletenon ci sono parole per esprimere i sentimenti che proviamo
ReplyDeleteVittoria e' una bimba speciale, e il nostro Padre l'ah voluta con lui
un grosso abbraccio e le nostre preghiere sono con voi
What a remarkable journey. We are so very sad. We admire both of you and Vittoria so much. Our hearts and prayers continue with you. We love you.
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Nulla ci appartiene ma nessuno mai potrà toglierci tutto quello che riguarda i sentimenti e le sensazioni: l'amore, la gioia, il dolore, la paura, la felicità ed il coraggio. Ognuna di queste è stata e resterà sempre dentro di noi per quello che abbiamo vissuto con Vittoria direttamente e anche attraverso i genitori, i nonni e tutti quelli che le hanno sempre voluto bene. Un fortissimo abbraccio Zio Massimo
ReplyDeleteCome 8 anni fa anche ieri siete stati chiamati ad affrontare una dura prova: anche ieri siete stati altrettanto coraggiosi nel dimostrare a Vittoria tutto l'amore che le avete sempre voluto. Tutti noi ora dobbiamo cercare di accantonare le sue lunghe sofferenze e ricordare quei momenti bellissimi che la "Piccola Principessa" ci ha regalato attraverso i suoi sorrisi, il suo girare gli occhi, la sua tenacia, la sua capacità nell'attirare l'attenzione su di sè e la più importante : farsi amare. Questa è Vittoria! Siamo lì con voi Zia Lucia, Domitilla e Ludovico
ReplyDeleteWe are so very sorry... our most sincere prayers of comfort and peace are with you.
ReplyDeleteLove, The Huish Family
www.sadiehuish.blogspot.com
Having lost a child I can feel your great aoin and sorrow. But you have such a deep knowledge of the gospel it will carry you through this time of sorrow. I was at the hospital the day Vittoria came in and there was just something about her spirit that made me want to root for her and pray for her everyday. All I know about you and your family is from your blog and seeing you daily at the hospital, I can guarantee that you and your family have touched hundreds of people lives and we are better people from knowing vittoria and your family. We will keep you in our prayers as you start another chapter in your lives. I know that Hevenly Fahter knows your pain and will comfort you.
ReplyDeleteWe are so heartbroken for you! We love you and your family so much, and I feel so blessed to be able to have your example in my life. What a blessing it is to know that our families are eternal. You will certainly continue to be in our prayers.
ReplyDeleteStephanie, Ben, & Miles Jackson
We are so sorry for your lost. The only comfort is that families are together forever. Heavenly Father blessed so many lives through Vittoria. You are in our prayers.
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Tyson & Martha Gerber
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Such a beautiful little girl! I think its amazing how you have such faith and look at it in ways most would never do in this situation. Your family was in my prayers and I do pray that Heavenly Father can be with you for comfort in your time of loss and pain. I do not know your family personally but started following through Julie Harrison's Blog. If there is ANYTHING that I can do please let me know.
ReplyDeleteAaron & Cody Greenwood
I am so sorry to hear that Vittoria has left this earth. May you have comfort in knowing that her spirit lives and that she is free from pain. I am so sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear about Vittoria's passing. I can't imagine what you are going through at this time. Just know that so many people are praying for you and will continue to do so. I lost my little 5 month old niece back in June and that was such a hard time for my family and her parents and brothers and sisters. Going through that I can now say I KNOW that families are forever and that we will be with them again. I'm so sorry...I love you Val.
ReplyDeleteI am in tears.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your testimony... you are an example to us all. :)
~Natalie
You have been in our thoughts and prayers. We were so sad to hear of Vittoria's passing. What a beautiful little spirit, who will be remembered forever. Your family has been a great inspiration to us. We will keep you in our prayers. Doug & Kaye Rasmussen
ReplyDeleteWe love you. We are so sorry for your loss. We have cried for you. love Julie and Paolo Palmieri
ReplyDeleteNon ci sono parole per esprimere tutto l'amore e il coraggio che voi avete dimostrato di avere, ora la piccola principessa ci guardera' dall'alto e ci vegliera' con il suo meraviglioso sorriso e la sua dolcezza.Un grosso abbraccio da chi vi pensava sempre, Silvia e famiglia
ReplyDeleteWe can't believe what we have just read. Our hearts go out to you James and Val. Thank you for sharing this experience with us all. Your my hero James...
ReplyDelete- Blaise & Danielle Dinkelman
Ho conosciuto Vittoria, questa bellissima bambina solo attraverso le foto e i video di questo blog ma e` come se la conoscessi da sempre e adesso mentre non posso fare a meno di pensarla continuamente e le lacrime continuano a bagnare le mie guance mi sento in dovere di dirle grazie e dire grazie anche a voi che siete i suoi genitori, genitori speciali per il grande esempio che ci e` stato e che ci viene dato tutt'ora. Con amore infinito.
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So sorry to hear of Vittoria's passing. She was such a sweet special girl. She touched many lives. I know that ours was changed from knowing her. Thanks for sharing her with all of us. You guys are such strong great people. You have touched more lives than you know by sharing with us what you were going through and your sweet daughter. You are in our thoughts and prayers. It is great to know that families are forever and you will be with her again. We love you, Dorrell, Michele, Dylan & Baylee
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear about Vittoria's passing. I cannot imagine what you are going through at this time. I am so glad that both you and I KNOW that families are forever and that you can be together again. We will continue to pray for your family. Tabitha
ReplyDeleteYour post was absolutely beautiful. We are so sad to hear about your little angel, know that our thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for expressing your feelings.
ReplyDeleteZac and Callee Cloward
We have felt your joys and sorrows as we have read the progress of your little princess, Vittoria! Her name implies now her reward..VICTORY! She has passed the earthly test and now waits in the Celestial Kingdom for her wonderful family to join her. Seeing your faith and testimony through this trial, I have no doubt that you each will receive that same Victory. May God bless you and continue to lift you as you continue to see miracles happen daily. FAMILIES ARE FOREVER! We love you! Mark, Kristina McAfee and family
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear of her passing, but I can't help but think of the amazing welcome she must have received! Great Grandma and Grandpa Oviatt for one, and so many more must have been lined up to greet her! It must have been quite the sight. Your family is in our prayers!
ReplyDeleteWe are so sorry to hear about the passing of sweet Vittoria! Stay strong, you will see her again!
ReplyDeleteClark and Alicia Radford
We have never met and maybe we never will. But I wanted you to know that you have been in our thoughts and prayers for the past several weeks as Vittoria has been in the hospital and we have found out about your situation. Please know our prayers continue with you during this excruciating time. I have felt the Spirit and know that your sweet angel is, indeed, waiting for you with our Father in Heaven. May God's choicest blessings be yours.
ReplyDeleteSincerely, Ken and Becky Ivory
Val and James, You have friends that mourn Vittoria with you. She is an amazing little girl and I have many fun memories of her, especially her feisty spirit. She always amazed me with her toughness. I feel privileged to get to know your family as her first physical therapist and then to love you as friends. Our prayers for comfort are with you. Love, Chris and Julie Colt
ReplyDeleteVal and James, My little Hannah and I have been praying for Vittoria every day. We are so sorry to hear of her passing and the pain you must be experienceing right now! But we are also so happy to have the knowledge as you do that she is in her Heavenly Fathers home. She has thrones awaiting her there! I love you and will continue praying for you! Love always, Nicki and Jason Ehlers and Family
ReplyDeleteI'm am so sorry for your loss! She was a very special little girl! I will miss her beautiful smile! Words can't express my sadness! I pray that the Lord will be with your family during this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I never met Vittoria she changed my life. She made me realize the things I always thought were important were actually very trivial. Seeing and hearing all of the prayers and good wishes and fundraisers showed me that in difficult times peoples true selves came through. I hold my children tighter and feel blessed for what I have. Thank you Vittoria for being so brave and thank you Val and James for sharing her journey. We love you and pray that you will find peace in your journey forward.
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You don't know me, but I heard about your beautiful little angel Vittoria from our friends Lora and Rod. My heart aches for your family. I can't even imagine what you are going through. You had a remarkable girl there and its comforting to know you will be all together in the days to come. May God be with you during this time.
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Thank you for being such amazing people. I find it incredible, as I sit here with tears in my eyes, that you are the ones bringing comfort to me. You are truly an inspiration! I pray that you will continue to feel peace and comfort. I'm so sorry. You are in our prayers. Love, The Kraync's
ReplyDeleteJames & Val: Thank you for this blog site I am sure it wasn't easy to do. But for Kasandra and myself it made it possible for us to get something that we have missed and that is your friendship and the very special litte spirit of Vittorias whitch we enjoyed so much when you guys were here in price and on your vists back. We are blessed to feel of your testimoney's and want you to know that our prayers and thoughts are with you in these trials may God bless and comfort you.
ReplyDeleteLove Kevin & Kasandra.
We were blessed to see Vittoria in our office. Our hearts and prayers are with your family and friends during this sad time.
ReplyDeleteDr DeHart, Dr Moffat, and Staff.
Non ho potuto passare tanto tempo con Vittoria ma quel poco che sono stata con lei mi sono resa conto di quanto fosse speciale! La ricorderò sempre. Un bacio a voi Vale e James.
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I was so sad to hear of Vittoria's passing. What a special and courageous little girl. Thank you for opening your hearts to share your experience with so many of us. Because of your willingness to share your most tender feelings, my testimony has grown. You are very special people to have been given the opportunity to be Vittoria's parents.
ReplyDeleteMuch love, Brenda Dart
We were so sad to get the news that you had to make such an agonizing decision on Sunday night. We were actually on our way to a fireside for all of the dedication choirs for the Oquirrh Mountain Temple Dedications to sing the songs I have been practicing for our families, including the Hosannah Chorus/Spirit of God with the congregration, when Travis got the news. We immediately teared up, knowing what that meant, and my heart just broke for you both. As I sang the Hosannah Chorus that night, the Spirit was SO strong. It truly testified to the power and blessing of the Temple. That families really will be together forever. Tears flowed as I tried to get through the words of the song, knowing the pain and loss you were suffering at the same moment at a hospital across the valley from us. I am so grateful for temples, and for the gospel - that we have the knowledge that we will be reunited with the angel babies and children that we are sometimes forced to be separated from here on earth. Our thoughts and prayers have been with you all week, and will continue to be. May the Spirit of the Lord comfort and buoy you during this devastating time. Your strength and testimonies during her battle and now in the face of such loss, is amazing. You are truly angels here on earth.
ReplyDeleteMuch Love, Sara and Travis Larson
La triste notizia ha lasciato, anche in quelli come me, che hanno avuto poche occasioni di stare accanto a Vittoria, un vuoto enorme.
ReplyDeleteNon ci sono parole di conforto...solo una certezza da poter condividere nella fede: Vittoria è stato un angelo, che anche se ha attraversato per troppo poco tempo questo mondo, ha fatto a tutti un grande regalo, ha mostrato quanto sia bello è vero l'Amore e questo resterà per sempre.
Le nostre preghiere la accompagneranno e lei da lassù vi aiuterà ad andare avanti così che possiate raccontare a tutti che volto ha l'Amore.
Ci stringiamo a voi con tanto affetto
Diego&family
We just wanted you to know that we love you guys and will continue to pray for you guys!!
ReplyDeleteAbbiamo seguito la lunga lotta di Vittoria e non possiamo neanche immaginare il dolore che state provando. Vi siamo vicini nel giorno dell'ultimo saluto. Un abbraccio Silvia, Andrea, Davide, Marilù e Iolanda.
ReplyDeleteWe are friends of Justin and Sabrina Perkins and have been following your little angel's progress for a while now...we want to express our condolences to you and your family....she is a beautiful little girl with a mighty and courageous spirit..thank you for sharing just a little of her with all of us...Family's are Forever...we know that.....God Bless your Family
ReplyDeleteWe are sorry to hear of your great loss. We got to know Vittoria a little during our visit to Scofield a few years ago. We also spent some time with her at Mary's reception in Price. We miss you guys and don't get to see you enough. Our years in Scofield are very special to us and we love you all. Our prayers and thoughts are with you. We feel of your strength through the tribute you wrote. God Bless and hope to see you soon. Love Frank and Marie and Family
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